“The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.”
"The skill of being with women in pain in labour often rests in believing in women when they do not believe in themselves."
“A doula enters the space of a labouring woman and is highly responsive and aware of her needs, moods, changes, and unspoken feelings. She has no need to control or smother. Every pregnant woman should have the benefits of a doula. This person does not detract from the role of the baby’s father or co-parent, by the way. It enhances it and leaves him (or her) free to do the very important job of loving the mother. ”
~Christiane Northrup, M.D. Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
"The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.... A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words."
~Rachel Naomi Remen
“Asking your husband to be your sole guide through labor is like asking him to lead the way on a climb of Mt Everest. He may be smart and trustworthy, you may love him, but in the Himalayas you’d both be a lot better off with a Sherpa!”
"It's hard work, it hurts a lot, and you can do it"